Swamp Song Serenade: A Rainy-Day Collage for Pluviophiles

A Rain Lover’s Question

Some people see a rainy swamp and think gloom. I see music, movement, and the quiet pleasure of a gray day. That may be because of my rainy-day collage, I have recently discovered a word for people like me: pluviophile, a lover of rain. Are you one, too?

A picture of an aws Studios collage titled "Swamp Song Serenade." The collage is mainly of the ecotone of the swamp or pre-swamp where beautiful wild iris grow before a whimsical dock with everything flanked by oak and maple trees in the foreground made with woven recycled paper.
“Swamp Song Serenade” © 2026

Behind the Studio: Where the Swamp Begins

Between the back of my studio and my neighbor Mike’s dock begins a swamp—the subject of my latest collage, Swamp Song Serenade.

Swamps get a bad rap. They are often imagined as murky and dark, a graveyard of dead yet defiant, still-standing trees. But even on a rainy day, I see, feel, and smell the swamp’s beauty.

Setting the Stage: Iris, Dock, and Wetland Life

A picture of an aws Studios collage titled "Swamp Song Serenade." The collage is mainly of the ecotone of the swamp or pre-swamp where beautiful wild iris grow before a whimsical dock with everything flanked by oak and maple trees in the foreground made with woven recycled paper.
“Swamp Song Serenade” in the home

In the middle ground of the collage lies the ecotone—the pre-swamp area before the main wetland begins. Here, multiple stands of cheery wild Yellow Flag iris set the stage for my opus of many octaves.

Past the bright iris, Mike’s dock—represented in the collage with old gray sheet music—serves as a lyrical overture to the main swamp beyond.

We cannot see the wide wetland water, but we know it hides beneath the thick, fog-softened green bushes and trees in the background. In this dense overgrowth, the swamp teems with wildlife—birds, turtles, fish, and muskrat.

The Music of the Composition

Like the modal frame or pitch range in music, the oak and maple trunks in the foreground of Swamp Song Serenade define the outer boundaries of the composition’s melody. Made from woven recycled paper, they anchor the scene. A rusty-colored Virginia Creeper vine, left over from fall, waltzes down the face of the oak, while leafy dark-green vines play an intermezzo across the lower canvas from tree to towering tree.

When the Rain Begins

The scene is set. Then the rain begins—a cleansing shower of slanted silver playing a glissando across the collage board. Even though the sky is gray, the lighthearted blue-flowered vintage drawer liner paper I used for the water defies the mood of the day, offering a hopeful, pluviophile perspective.

A picture of an aws Studios collage titled "Swamp Song Serenade." The collage is mainly of the ecotone of the swamp or pre-swamp where beautiful wild iris grow before a whimsical dock with everything flanked by oak and maple trees in the foreground made with woven recycled paper.
“Swamp Song…” in progress in the Studio

Cozy Days, Hygge, and Pluviophile Joy

I have always loved rainy days. I embrace the chance to stay inside and get cozy. I love cozy, and I am all about hygge—that warm feeling of being indoors, wrapped in blankets, with a cup of something hot and a book nearby.

Discovering “Pluviophile” Through My Rainy-Day Collage

I knew about hygge from reading about it a few years ago when it was trending online, and I related to it immediately. But pluviophile? I had never heard the word before.

I came across the term while working on this description of my Swamp Song Serenade collage. I was searching for language to describe the mood of rainy days when I found this explanation from a Google AI Overview:

“Rainy days are often described through dual lenses: as a source of cozy, reflective calm or as a trigger for gloomy, low-energy melancholy, shaped by drops in sunlight, the soothing sound of water, and individual personality differences.”

A picture of an aws Studios collage titled "Swamp Song Serenade." The collage is mainly of the ecotone of the swamp or pre-swamp where beautiful wild iris grow before a whimsical dock with everything flanked by oak and maple trees in the foreground made with woven recycled paper.
A close-up of the rain in “Swamp Song Serenade”

It further defined the “calm and cozy” perspective as pluviophile, and the “gloomy and melancholic” perspective as having the “rain blues”—a state associated with sadness, fatigue, restlessness, and feelings of isolation.

Pluviophile comes from the Latin word pluvia (rain) and the Greek suffix -phile (a person who loves or is fond of something). It is a modern descriptive term or neologism rather than a formal medical or scientific diagnosis, though biology uses similar terms such as ombrophile for plants that thrive in wet conditions.

Common Traits of a Pluviophile

Common traits of a pluviophile include:

Sound: Finding deep relaxation in the sound of drops hitting a roof or windowpane.

Scent: Enjoying petrichor, the earthy smell that fills the air after rain falls on dry soil.

Mood: Feeling a sense of calm, cozy focus, or creative inspiration when the sky turns gray.

Finding Myself in the Rain

Is this you? It is certainly me. I exemplify all these traits. I love the sound of rain on the roof, and I get a calm, cozy feeling when it rains. I have also always enjoyed petrichor—the earthy scent of freshly overturned soil and fallen leaves in autumn—though this is the first time I knew there was a word for it.

From Rain Blues to Rain Lovers

My description of Swamp Song Serenade speaks to musicians and people who love music, but the collage is also for the pluviophile. And perhaps it may even turn those with the rain blues into rain lovers.

An Invitation to Be Serenaded

Go ahead—let this swamp song serenade uplift you. From the drama of the dying oak depicted in real birch bark to the bright, lemony lyric of the wild iris, this rainy-day collage evokes rest, relaxation, coziness, and contemplation. Days like these offer an invitation to stay indoors, get cozy, catch up on rest, and make space for peaceful observation.

Swamp Song Serenade

Vintage Fabric and Recycled Paper Collage

16×16

$700

A picture of an aws Studios collage titled "Swamp Song Serenade." The collage is mainly of the ecotone of the swamp or pre-swamp where beautiful wild iris grow before a whimsical dock with everything flanked by oak and maple trees in the foreground made with woven recycled paper.
“Swamp Song Serenade” © 2026

Social Emotional Learning Bundle for Student Belonging: 3 Ready-to-Use SEL Resources for Connection, Empathy, and Communication

Looking for practical social emotional learning resources that help students feel seen, valued, and connected? This 3-resource SEL bundle is designed to make student community building simple, meaningful, and engaging for teachers, counselors, group leaders, and support staff.

Why Student Belonging Matters

Students are more ready to learn when they feel safe, included, and connected to the people around them. Social emotional learning supports the everyday skills students need to understand themselves, build positive relationships, practice empathy, communicate clearly, and make thoughtful choices.

This Social Emotional Learning Bundle for Student Belonging gives educators three ready-to-use activities that help students learn more about themselves and one another while creating a calmer, kinder, and more connected student environment.

What Is Included in this SEL Bundle?

This student belonging bundle includes three engaging SEL resources that can be used together as a complete set or individually throughout the school year.

1. Circle of Community™

Circle of Community™ is a classroom-tested and approved team-building and student community activity that helps students identify strengths, understand different points of view, practice empathy, and work together toward shared goals. It is ideal for back-to-school lessons, advisory periods, morning meetings, small groups, and student community-building activities.

A picture of the cover of the aws Studios.art Communication Skills Resource, Circle of Community

2. Reframe It!™

Reframe It!™ is a social emotional learning activity that helps children, teens, and adults explore the “why” behind behavior. This resource supports empathy, communication, problem-solving, behavior reflection, and perspective-taking in a practical, approachable way.

3. Strong Suits™

Strong Suits™ is a quick and engaging SEL game that helps students recognize and share their strengths, personality traits, individuality, and positive character qualities. Students build self-awareness and confidence while learning to appreciate what makes each person unique.

How This SEL Bundle Supports Students

This bundle helps students build a stronger sense of student belonging by giving them structured opportunities to connect, share, listen, reflect, and collaborate. Through playful and purposeful SEL activities, students practice the relationship skills they need for a more respectful student community.

  • Build a stronger sense of belonging
  • Practice communication and collaboration
  • Develop empathy and perspective-taking skills
  • Recognize personal strengths and positive character traits
  • Strengthen self-awareness, confidence, and resilience
  • Improve problem-solving and relationship-building skills
  • Create a more positive, connected student community

Perfect for Classrooms, Counseling Lessons, and Small Groups

Because the resources are flexible and easy to implement, this SEL bundle can be used in a variety of school and group settings.

  • Student community building
  • Morning meetings or advisory periods
  • Small groups and counseling lessons
  • Back-to-school activities
  • Team-building lessons
  • Social skills instruction
  • SEL lessons focused on empathy, strengths, behavior, and belonging
A picture of the cover of the aws Studios.art Communication Skills Resource, Circle of Community

Bundle Features Teachers Will Appreciate

These SEL resources are designed to be practical, playful, and meaningful without requiring complicated preparation.

  • Step-by-step teacher directions
  • Participant handouts
  • Strengths identification activities
  • Social styles and character trait activities
  • Posters and visual supports
  • Flexible activities for Students, groups, teams, or families

Why Teachers Choose Ready-to-Use SEL Activities

Teachers need social emotional learning activities that are easy to use, developmentally flexible, and meaningful for real student life. This bundle gives educators classroom tested and approved structured activities that support connection, empathy, strengths-based reflection, communication, and behavior understanding without adding unnecessary prep time.

Use the activities together as a complete SEL bundle or individually whenever students need support with connection, communication, empathy, behavior reflection, teamwork, or student community. If your goal is to create a student where they feel safer, calmer, more respectful, and more connected, this 3-resource Social Emotional Learning Bundle for Student Belonging is a practical place to start.

My Studio Pets

An art coach I follow suggested artists introduce their audience to their studio pets.

Immediately, I thought, I can’t do that. I don’t have a pet.

But then, I realized I do have a studio pet. In fact, I have many.

They just aren’t real. They’re inanimate.

Most of my studio pets either hang from the ceiling or perch on a shelf or my desk.

My pet Kingfisher

My Favorite Studio Pet

My favorite, the Kingfisher

The kingfisher is my favorite Bay bird. The Kingfisher packs a lot into their medium-size sporting navy blue wings, a white chest, and grey ring around its neck. They remind me of  Einstein with their crest of dark spikey feathers out of the top of their head.

The Kingfisher darts from the roof of the Studio, over to the dock, then into the swamp. Done with a distinct fluttering cackle, they hunt for their next meal.

My Kingfisher made from felt comes from a pattern I found online.

Then There’s Ghostly

Ghostly, a windsock, I made for Halloween when my kids were little. I used an old white sheet to make its body and sewed its head onto a large metal ring to create the sock.

Ghostly has short, stuffed hands sticking out of each of its sides, big black eyes and a black “Boo”-looking mouth on both sides of its head.

Once the kids were grown, I still hung Ghostly up on our front porch at Halloween. Since my hubby wasn’t enamored with this post-kids-at-home display, it hangs in the Studio until I pass it on to my granddaughter.

The pet-like Ghostly windsock

Edgar the Egret

Edgar the Egret

Edgar has been in my possession pretty much ever since my son brought it home from an after-school “Enrichment Day” where kids did a lot of crafty projects.

I loved this simple toy – a marionette, made with a wooden head and feet, fuzzy black felt neck and legs, doll’s eyes, and a black feather tail, which has gotten lost somewhere along the way.

Edgar hangs from his puppet strings ready to show any young studio guest its cool birdy swagger.

Other Studio Pets

My other Studio pets include a blue polka-dotted chicken ornament, a wooden black bird, a couple of animals made by my daughter when she was a kid —  a frog, who has since lost most of its fly-catching tongue and another one of my favorites, a paper mâché dragon.  

And now I’m receiving new additions to my collection lovingly made by my 8-year-old granddaughter like a sculpted ball-holding elephant.

Every So Often

I do have one “real” pet. It’s Ernie. He’s my son’s dog, who my husband & I occasionally dog-sit.

Having Ernie hang out with me while I’m working in the studio is a treat. I enjoy his company as he patiently waits for me to take him for a walk.

One time while waiting, something caught his eye and he got up and ran, right through the door screen to chase it! Now with my duct taped screen, I hold my breath hoping he’ll let me open the door for him.

My one real pet, Ernie

So, Yes, I do Have Studio Pets

And every day, upon entering my studio, I greet my company-keeping menagerie with a cheery “Good morning!” Then I’m off to work. Or is it play?

A Gift for Difficult Times

No More Feeling Awkward When Someone You Care About Is Hurting

We Want to Help, but We Do Not Always Know How

Someone you know is experiencing a difficult time. It may be the death of a loved one, chronic body aches, recovery from a medical procedure, a cancer diagnosis, the loss of a job, or the pain of dealing with an unrelenting bully. The list could go on.

During hard seasons, many of us feel unsure about what to say to family members or friends who are hurting.

Picture of a small, sad boy hugging their mom.

Listening without judgment is one of the greatest gifts we can offer. Still, there are times when we want to do something more. We send food, give gift cards for rides, or offer a card for a favorite store or restaurant.

Those gifts can be thoughtful and helpful, but they are often used once and then gone. When someone is facing a difficult season that lasts for weeks, months, or longer, it can be meaningful to give something with staying power.

The Solution: A Gift That Offers Comfort Again and Again

A picture of the picture book and plush in the Fight BIG Fears Bundle.
The “Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears” picture book and plush in the Fight BIG Fears Bundle

The Fight BIG Fears™ Bundle is a comforting gift for people going through tough times. It shows that you care, and it gives the recipient a simple, tangible reminder they can return to when fear, worry, grief, or uncertainty feels big.

What Is the Fight BIG Fears™ Bundle?

The Fight BIG Fears™ Bundle is a small, sweet package created to encourage courage, comfort, and connection. It includes:

  • the “Phoebe and phearnik!® Fight BIG Fears™” picture book;
  • an adorable phearnik!® Courage Buddy™ plush;
  • a personal letter to each recipient;
  • handcrafted details, not mass-produced factory work. The Courage Buddy™ plushies were made by hand in the aws Studios by the “Friends of phearnik!® Crafters,” giving each one its own personality;
  • soft, child-friendly fabrics intended for users ages four and up. Because each Courage Buddy™ is handmade, no two are exactly alike, and that is part of their charm; and
  • the paperback book, printed by Lulu Publishing, offers purchasers an affordable picture book written and illustrated by me.

How the Bundle Works

The Bundle works through two pieces that are meant to be used together: the picture book and the Courage Buddy™ plush.

In “Phoebe and phearnik!® Fight BIG Fears™,” Phoebe shows readers how she uses her Courage Buddy™ to face new experiences, step outside her comfort zone, and discover joy while keeping fear small instead of letting it grow big.

Readers can then use their own Courage Buddy™ plush as a reminder to pause, breathe in, breathe out, and take the next small step forward.

A picture of the "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" a picture book that helps kids reduce their fear and anxiety.
Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears book cover

The Courage Buddy™ is not magic, and it does not erase anxiety, grief, or hardship. Instead, it acts as a comforting prompt. With practice, it can help children and adults remember what to do when a big feeling shows up.

For someone going through a difficult time, that kind of reminder can matter. It gives them something to hold, something to read, and something to return to when they need a little courage and comfort.

Give a Gift with Staying Power

A picture of the phearnik! Courage Buddy bespoke plush. It is a lavender colored doll with wild hair, big eyes and a crooked smile. It is a tool for parents of anxious kids to help them find calm and courage. It is sold with the book, "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" in the "Fight BIG Fears" book and plush Bundle.

Whether you know someone who is going through a difficult time now, or you want to be ready for the moment when someone you love needs encouragement, consider giving a Fight BIG Fears™ Bundle.

Difficult times come to all of us, and a thoughtful gift can remind someone that they are seen, supported, and not alone.

Only FOUR original Bundles left!

Click here to purchase your original Bundle today before they’re gone!

How My Creative Experiences Led Me to Collage

Creative Beginnings

Ever since my mom set me at the table with a paint-by-water coloring book, I have been making art.

My mother, an oil painter, filled my childhood with creative experiences, from making food for my dolls out of homemade salt dough to painting those tiny loaves of bread and plates of pies with watercolor paint.

Add water and Presto! color! I was hooked.

Discovering Paper Crafts

Later, as the youngest of three girls, I inherited a craft book my sisters had outgrown. By the time I was eight, I paged through it trying anything that caught my attention.

Hexagonal cardboard organizer with scissors and pencils
A desk caddy for my daddy!

I loved this book filled with projects made mostly out of paper. One craft I remember making when was a caddy for my dad’s desk in our living room.

Using tape and the cardboard his laundered shirts were wrapped around, I made a small lidded, hexagonal box for paper clips, thumbtacks, and other desk supplies. I remember that project not only because was I was so proud to make something useful for my dad but I also enjoyed this craft more challenging than paper towel roll kazoos or folded construction-paper boxes I had mastered.

More Creative Experiences and Finding My Rhythm

From there, I started making cards for family members, a habit that stayed with me, designing my Christmas cards for more than 30 years. Plus, the card making  became an easy way to exercise my creativity during my busy career as a mom of two children and a mental health educator.

A picture of an aws Studios acrylic painting of snowshoes hanging from a branch of a tree drying after being varnished. Card making has been a thread through my creative experiences.
“The Varnish,” an aws Studios acrylic painting used for a Christmas card.

Experimenting with Many Mediums

Card making wasn’t my only creative outlet. Over the years, my creative experiences included many different materials and techniques: watercolor, acrylic, and oil painting; drawing and illustration; macramé; bottle cutting; decorating; T-shirt design; dress design and construction; appliqué; and sewing-machine embroidery.

Except for card-making, nothing stayed with me for the long term—until I began making landscape collages.

The First Landscape Collage

A picture of the collage "Postcards from Aunt Dee" shown as an enlarged metal print displayed on a wall in a coffee shop.
“Postcards from Aunt Dee”
Large metal print available here

My first landscape collage was inspired by none other than a blurry photograph taken by my friend Dee on her disposable camera during our annual “friends” beach vacation.

Though the photo was out of focus, as many disposable-camera photos were, I was drawn to the picture showing our empty beach chairs lined up like Mama , Papa, and Baby Bear chairs on the sand near the edge of the Atlantic. From there, I built the scene. Read more about this collage and see another version of it here.

Hooked on Collage

After I created that first collage in 1994, I was hooked. My next landscape collage was inspired by fabric scraps I collected while working as a seamstress for Syracuse Stage, a regional Equity theatre in Upstate New York. Read about and see this collage here.

I continued to layout scenes inspired by travels with my family, choosing papers from my stash of found and recycled materials, and cutting shapes and patterns with scissors and a craft knife to create landscapes mixing my reference photos with my imagination.

I have always enjoyed cutting paper with scissors. In collage, that simple childhood pleasure became part of a larger creative practice—one that brought together paper, memory, color, travel, family, and the satisfaction of building a scene piece by piece.

Following the Thread

Looking back, I can see that every creative experience in my life left behind a thread. The paper crafts taught me patience and construction. Card-making taught me design and storytelling. Sewing taught me how to work with texture, pattern, and shape. Travel with family and friends gave me scenes worth remembering. Collage brought all of those threads together and gave me a way to turn memory into landscape, and landscape into something personal.

If you are drawn to my collage landscapes, I hope this glimpse into my creative journey helps you see the layers behind each piece—the memories, materials, and sense of place that come together in the work. I invite you to explore the collection with that story in mind, and to choose a piece that speaks to your own memories of landscape, travel, family, or home.

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A Fun Way for Kids and Adults to Face Fears

When Fear Gets Big

When fear gets big, it can make small moments feel impossible. A first swim lesson, a new school, a doctor’s visit, a night in a separate bedroom, or even an everyday change can suddenly feel too big to face. That is exactly why I created the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle: to give kids, parents, and even anxious adults a simple, comforting way to pause, breathe, and take one brave step forward.

What is the Fight BIG Fears™ Bundle?

The Fight BIG Fears™ Bundle is a small, sweet package that includes:

  • the “Phoebe and phearnik!® Fight BIG Fears™” picture book;
  • an adorable phearnik!® Courage Buddy™ plush; and
  • a personal letter to each buyer.
A picture of the Fight BIG Fears Bundle from aws Studios. Tha Bundle helps anxious kids and adults fear less.
A picture of the "Friends of phearnik! Crafters" working on creating the bespoke phearnik! Courage Buddy plush in the aws Studios Annex.

Each Bundle is handcrafted, not mass-produced in a factory. The Courage Buddy™  plushies were made by hand in the aws Studios by the “Friends of phearnik!® Crafters” giving each its own personality.

The plush rag dolls are made with soft, child-friendly fabrics and are intended for children ages four and up. Because they are handmade, no two Courage Buddies are exactly alike—and that is part of their charm.

The picture book is self-published and printed by Lulu Publishing, offering purchasers an affordable children’s picture book written and illustrated by me.

Who Is the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle For?

For Kids and Adults Who Want Help Facing Big Fears

The Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle is for fearful or anxious kids and adults who want a gentle, practical way to face something new.

It is especially helpful for parents whose children are afraid of doing new things, such as learning to swim, sleeping in their own bed for the first time, getting a shot, going to a new school, or going on new family outings like a hike through the woods.

A picture form the picture book "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears." Phoebe is afraid of going to the new school. She walks on by thinking this will make her BIG fear small. But then she misses going to dance class. She likes dance class.
From the picture book “Phoebe and phearnik!…”

The Bundle is also for adults who experience anxiety or feel fearful about stepping out of their comfort zone to try something they want or need to do.

Why I Made the Bundle

I made the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle because big fears can stop kids and adults from trying things that matter to them. The Bundle gives them a safe, comforting way to make those fears feel small enough to take the next step.

How the Bundle Helps

The Bundle works through two pieces that are meant to be used together: the picture book and the Courage Buddy™  plush.

A picture of Phoebe from the book "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" when Phoebe makes an old, discarded rag doll into her new phearnik! that helps her keep her big fears small so she can do things she really wants to do.
From the book “Phoebe and phearnik!…” when Phoebe discovers her phearnik! Courage Buddy™  

In the picture book, “Phoebe and phearnik!® Fight BIG Fears™”, Phoebe shows readers how she uses her Courage Buddy™  to face new experiences, step outside her comfort zone, and discover joy while keeping her fear small and not letting it get big.

Readers can then use their own Courage Buddy™  plush as a reminder to pause, breathe, let the breath out, and keep their fear small enough to move forward.

The Courage Buddy™  is not magic, and it does not erase anxiety. Instead, it acts as a comforting prompt. With practice, it can help kids and adults remember what to do when a big feeling shows up.

Comfort objects and slow breathing can be useful parts of a coping toolkit, especially when they help a person feel grounded, supported, and ready to take one manageable step at a time.

Who the Bundle Is Not For

The Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle is not for everyone, and that is okay.

If you want a mass-produced plush that looks like every other toy on the shelf, this Bundle probably is not the right fit. The Courage Buddy™  does not look like a typical round, fluffy, big-eyed toy. It looks more like a small doll, with a navy-blue jumpsuit, black eyes, a curious little mouth, and fun, colorful, wild hair.

If you need every item to look exactly the same, this may not be the Bundle for you. Each Courage Buddy™  is assembled by hand, so each one is unique.

But if you love originality, handmade details, and the idea that your child’s Courage Buddy™  has its own personality, then the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle may be just what you are looking for.

A picture of the hand-crafted phearnik! Courage Buddies.

Is the Book Any Good?

If you are wondering whether a self-published picture book is worth reading, I understand. Sometimes we choose a book because a friend recommends it. Sometimes we read the description, look at reviews, or preview a few pages before deciding.

You can do the same with “Phoebe and phearnik!® Fight BIG Fears™.” Before purchasing the Bundle, you can read the book description, look at reviews, preview the book, or read the full ePub edition if you want to know exactly what is inside.

What If You Do Not Think It Will Work for Your Child?

The Bundle will not work well if it simply sits on a shelf. It is meant to be read, practiced, and used.

1. Read the book together. If you do not read the book, you and your child may not understand what the Courage Buddy™  is, what it is for, or how to use it.

2. Help your child use the Courage Buddy™ . The Courage Buddy™  is a social-emotional learning tool that helps kids practice calming skills. Children often need a parent’s help while they are learning those skills.

When your child is experiencing anxiety or big fears, remind them to hold their Courage Buddy™ , stop, breathe in, breathe out, and make the fear small enough to try the next step.

3. Practice again and again. Learning how to calm big fears into small, safe fears takes practice. You can also model the process by using the Courage Buddy™  idea with your own fears or anxieties. For many adults, this could be having a fear of public speaking.

Will the Bundle Help a Friend With Anxiety?

It is hard to see friends or family members struggle with anxiety. We want to help, ease their pain, or even wish we could take it away completely.

A picture of the phearnik! Courage Buddy bespoke plush. It is a lavender colored doll with wild hair, big eyes and a crooked smile. It is a tool for parents of anxious kids to help them find calm and courage. It is sold with the book, "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" in the "Fight BIG Fears" book and plush Bundle.

It is a kind thing to consider giving them the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle. But it is important to be clear about what the Bundle does and does not claim to do.

The Bundle does not claim to cure anxiety, eliminate every worry, or replace professional support. It is not meant to be a medical or therapeutic treatment.

What it can do is offer a comforting tool and a simple practice: pause, breathe, and keep a big fear small enough to stay safe and take one step forward.

For the Bundle to be useful, the person receiving it needs to understand how to use it and be willing to practice.

Can a Picture Book and Plush Really Help?

Yes, a picture book and plush can help when they are used as tools, not as magic fixes. The book gives the reader a story and a model. The plush gives them a physical reminder to pause, breathe, and try again.

This is the heart of the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle: helping kids and adults fear less, feel supported, and take one brave step at a time.

Still Doubtful?

If you are thinking, “Really? A picture book and a plush are going to help with anxiety?” I get it.

Anxiety can be exhausting, embarrassing, and frustrating. It can keep people from doing things that seem easy for everyone else. So, skepticism makes sense.

I believe the book and plush can help because the phearnik!® Courage Buddy™  idea has helped me. Since childhood and into adulthood, I have dealt with irrational fears – fears that I was unable to keep “small” and got big. Using a Courage Buddy™  has helped me to remember to keep my fear small so that I can step out of my comfort zone again and again.

The Courage Buddy™  prompt also lines up with familiar calming strategies: noticing a big feeling, pausing, breathing slowly, and using a comforting object as a reminder to stay grounded.

But the Bundle will not help much if you do not use it. The three steps are simple: read the book, use the Courage Buddy™  when big fears show up, and practice often enough that the skill becomes familiar.

Ready to Help Big Fears Feel a Little Smaller?

If the Fight BIG Fears™  Bundle sounds like something your child, a loved one, or even you could use, I would love for you to take a closer look in my Etsy shop. Read about the Bundle, look at the book’s trailer if you would like, and choose the phearnik!®Courage Buddy™  that feels like the right little companion for the next brave step.

Fun Bundle for Anxious Kids

Help for Parents

Finally, help for parents of anxious kids!  The “Fight BIG Fears” picture book and plush Bundle is now available.

Parents of anxious kids, this is for you. Step away from your frustrations and, with your child, enter the world of Phoebe and her phearnik!® Both of you will not only be charmed but changed by the shy and anxious Phoebe.

Help for Anxious Kids

In the picture book, “Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears,” written and illustrated by Alis Wintle Sefick, young Phoebe freezes when faced with new experiences. But just like other nervous kids, she hates being left out of the fun she sees other kids having.

To not suffer this indignation any longer, Phoebe creates a phearnik!, a clever way to combat her fears. Now with her new “courage buddy,” she’s able to have fun and play with the other kids.

A picture of the "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" a picture book that helps kids reduce their fear and anxiety.

Kids’ Mental Health Issues Rising

Since the pandemic, kids’ mental health issues continue to rise. Hamstrung by their fears, many suffer anxiety like being afraid of swimming, going to a new school, or getting a shot at the doctors.

Furthermore, they often lack the skills needed to build their social and emotional health. Parents of these children face frustration and need tools and strategies to support them.

Toy as Tool for Anxious Kids

A picture of a little girl holding her phearnik! Courage Buddy. The plush helps her overcome her fears so she can join in and have fun.

Based on the validation of child psychologists, therapists, and counselors, parents and teachers working with anxious kids can rely on the “Fight BIG Fears” Bundle.

Evidence shows plush toys used as mindfulness prompts work to change behavior. The phearnik!® plush acts as a prompt to remind kids to keep their fears small and not let them get big where they freeze, unable to join in and play.

From Anxious to Calm and Courageous

With the soft and adorable phearnik!® plush always by her side, Phoebe’s story reminds kids that they can keep their fears small and manageable. Like Phoebe, children learn to practice the emotional skill of slow breathing to calm themselves. They also learn how a little fear keeps them safe enough to try new things.

Emotional Wellness Through Play

Compared to other plush on the market, phearnik!® checks all the mental, emotional, and social health play pattern boxes. These include learning how to overcome obstacles and

A picture of the phearnik! Courage Buddy bespoke plush. It is a lavender colored doll with wild hair, big eyes and a crooked smile. It is a tool for parents of anxious kids to help them find calm and courage. It is sold with the book, "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" in the "Fight BIG Fears" book and plush Bundle.

the ability to tell stories and deal with challenges. The plush also bridges play between kids and adults, another important play pattern for social and emotional wellness.

The “Fight BIG Fears” Bundle

Designed to offer both an engaging story and a comforting companion, the “Fight BIG Fears” Bundle comes complete with a paperback of the book and a soft and cuddly phearnik!® plush.

The book, printed by Lulu Publishing on sturdy 80lb paper, provides the perfect backdrop for Wintle Sefick’s vibrant and engaging recycled paper collage illustrations.

Lovingly made by the “Friends of phearnik!® Crafters” in the author/illustrator’s studio, the plush, constructed from all new materials of 100% polyester fabrics and yarns, is safe for children aged 4 years and older.

A picture of the "Friends of phearnik! Crafters" working  on creating the bespoke phearnik! Courage Buddy plush in the aws Studios Annex.
A picture of the "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" a picture book that helps kids reduce their fear and anxiety.
A picture of the phearnik! Courage Buddy bespoke plush. It is a lavender colored doll with wild hair, big eyes and a crooked smile. It is a tool for parents of anxious kids to help them find calm and courage. It is sold with the book, "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" in the "Fight BIG Fears" book and plush Bundle.

A Great Gift

The  “Fight BIG Fears” Bundle arrives in a neat white box with exciting and vibrant colors inside containing the engaging book and sweet little plush.

This Bundle provides everything you need to enjoy the inspiring story of a child who overcomes their fears.

It’s encouragement everyone can appreciate!

How to Manage Fear as an Adult: A Simple 5-Step Tool

A Tool for Overthinking, Avoidance, and the Freeze Response

Fear doesn’t disappear when we grow up.

It just becomes more socially acceptable to hide.

Instead of saying “I’m scared,” adults say:

  • “I’ll do it later.”
  • “Now’s not a good time.”
  • “I’m just tired.”
  • “I need to think about it.”
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But underneath those phrases is often the same nervous system response children experience — activation, overwhelm, and sometimes a freeze response.

You’re Not Alone

If you’ve ever searched for:

  • how to manage fear as an adult
  • why do I freeze under pressure
  • tools for adult anxiety
  • how to stop avoiding things

You’re not alone.

Fear lives in the body before it lives in our thoughts. When it becomes intense, the brain shifts into protection mode. That’s biology — not weakness.

How phearnik!® the Courage Buddy™ Works

I originally created phearnik!® to help me externalize and manage my fears of running a business. Then my granddaughter wanted one and after that, I wanted to make it available to any kid like my granddaughter and any adult like me that could use a tangible coping tool too.

To help parents better understand how to use phearnik!® the Courage Buddy™ with their kids, I created this free guide. Now, there’s a guide for adults – How to Use phearnik!®: 5 Easy Steps to Manage Fear For Adults.

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phearnik!® the Courage Buddy™

Based on the Science of Fear and Anxiety

Here’s the science-informed framework behind it.

Understanding the Freeze Response in Adults

Most people know about fight or flight. Fewer talk about freeze.

The freeze response happens when the nervous system perceives threat but doesn’t see a clear escape route. Instead of running or confronting, the system shuts down.

In adults, this can look like:

  • Procrastination
  • Avoiding difficult conversations
  • Cancelling plans
  • Staying silent in meetings
  • Overthinking without acting
  • Scrolling instead of starting

This isn’t laziness. It’s nervous system protection.

When we understand that, shame decreases — and that alone can reduce anxiety intensity.

5 Easy Steps to Fear Less with phearnik!®

The five steps in the guide are designed to gently interrupt that freeze pattern.

1. Take the Plush With You (Externalizing Anxiety)

One evidence-informed anxiety tool is called externalization — separating yourself from the emotion.

Instead of:
“I am anxious.”

It becomes:
“My anxiety is here.”

Holding a tangible object gives fear a boundary. It shifts the brain from fusion (“This is me”) to observation (“This is something I’m experiencing”).

That subtle shift increases cognitive flexibility and emotional regulation.

Externalizing emotions is a strategy used in therapy because it reduces intensity and increases choice.

2. Know That a Little Fear Is Healthy

A small amount of fear activates alertness and focus. It prepares the body for action.

This is called sympathetic nervous system activation — the body’s readiness system.

The goal isn’t to eliminate fear entirely. That would eliminate growth.

The goal is to keep fear within a tolerable range — not so high that it overwhelms your system.

3. Recognize When Fear Is Too Big

When fear exceeds your window of tolerance (the zone where you can think clearly), you may freeze.

You might notice:

  • Mental fog
  • Sudden fatigue
  • Avoidance
  • Decision paralysis

Recognizing this state is powerful. Awareness is the first step in nervous system regulation.

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4. Use Breath to Regulate Your Nervous System

One of the most researched nervous system regulation techniques is slow breathing — particularly extending the exhale.

A slow inhale followed by a longer exhale stimulates the vagus nerve, which helps activate the parasympathetic nervous system — the body’s calming system.

In simple terms:
Slow breathing tells your brain you are safe enough.

The plush acts as a grounding cue — a reminder to pause and breathe before fear escalates.

Grounding tools for anxiety don’t need to be complicated. They need to be repeatable.

5. Keep Your Fear Small

When fear feels enormous, the brain narrows options.

When fear is manageable, cognitive flexibility returns.

Ask:
“What is one small brave step?”

Tiny actions reduce avoidance over time through gradual exposure. The brain learns through experience:
“I survived that.”

Confidence builds through repetition, not force.

Why Adults Need Tools for Fear and Overwhelm

Many adults experience:

  • Chronic overthinking
  • Social apprehension
  • Performance anxiety
  • Avoidance patterns
  • Persistent low-level dread
  • Emotional overload
A picture of the "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" a picture book that helps kids and adults reduce their fear and anxiety and How to Manage Fear.
Both kids and adults like this picture book about how to fear less!

But we rarely give ourselves permission to use tangible coping tools.

Emotional regulation is not childish.
It is neurological.

Externalizing fear, breathing intentionally, and taking small steps are evidence-informed strategies rooted in how the brain and body respond to stress.

Download the Free Guide: 5 Easy Steps to Manage Fear

If you’ve been:

  • Overwhelmed
  • Avoiding something important
  • Feeling stuck
  • Caught in self-doubt
  • Frozen before taking action

This free guide offers a simple, practical tool grounded in nervous system awareness.

Download How to Use phearnik!®: 5 Easy Steps to Manage Fear (For Adults).

Fear may always visit.

But it doesn’t have to run the room.

Production Party for phearnik!®, a Mental Health Plush

Entering a New Phase of phearnik!®

If you’ve been following along on this journey, you know that phearnik!®, a mental health plush, hasn’t just appeared overnight. This little Courage Buddy™ has grown through intentional, thoughtful phases — each one stretching me as a creator and as a business owner.

In my earlier post about theCourage Buddy™  Plush and Its 4 Phases, I shared how phearnik!® has evolved:

  • The Idea Phase – when the concept of a fear-fighting companion was just a spark.
  • The Prototype Phase – when sketches turned into something tangible I could hold.
  • The Professional Sampling Phase – when I began working with a manufacturer to explore quantity production.
  • The Production Phase – the stage where phearnik!® becomes available to many more kids and adults.
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phearnik! the Courage Buddy, a mental health plush

Well… we are stepping into a version of Phase 4.

But maybe not the way I originally imagined.

Why I’m Self-Producing (For Now)

After working closely with a manufacturer through a number of revisions, the mental health plush was finally ready for an initial order.

Then reality hit.

The cost of producing even a modest run through the manufacturer was exorbitant for this stage of my business. As much as I believe in this plush — and I do — I also need to steward my resources wisely.

So instead of shelving the dream or overextending financially, I decided to…

 Self-produce a small batch of the mental health plush — with help.

This allows me to:

  • Create inventory at a manageable cost
  • Begin bundling the plush with Phoebe and phearnik!® Fight BIG Fearspicture book
  • Offer the bundle in my Etsy shop
  • Continue building data and momentum before committing to large-scale manufacturing

This is not a step backward.
It’s a strategic step forward.

Introducing… The Production Party 🎉

Instead of doing this alone, I am throwing a Production Party!

In the aws Studios “Annex,” I’m setting up a mini plush workshop in our garage. Friends have offered to join me in manning the following  workstations:

  • ✂️ Pattern Cutting Station – prepping all the plush body pieces
  • 🧵 Sewing Station – assembling phearnik!®’s body
  • ☁️ Stuffing Station – bringing shape and squish to life
  • 🎀 Hair-Making Station – creating phearnik!®’s signature colorful yarn hair
A aws Studios digital art of a sewing machine.

There’s something beautifully full-circle about this stage.

phearnik!® is a Courage Buddy™ — a plush designed to help children (and grown-ups) face big fears. And here we are, stepping into our own brave moment: choosing creativity over fear, community over overwhelm, action over perfection.

One Important Step: Safety Testing

Even though this is a small, self-produced batch, I am committed to doing this responsibly.

One of the newly produced plush will be sent off for professional safety testing. That piece of the process is non-negotiable. If this Courage Buddy™  is going into the hands of children, it must meet appropriate standards.

Quality. Safety. Integrity. I’m in.

Why This Matters

This Production Party isn’t just about making plush.

It’s about:

  • Believing in a vision when the numbers feel intimidating
  • Taking creative ownership of the process
  • Letting community be part of the dream
  • Moving forward instead of waiting for “perfect timing”
A picture of a little girl holding her phearnik! Courage Buddy. The plush helps her overcome her fears so she can join in and have fun.

And perhaps most importantly, it models exactly what phearnik!® stands for:

When fear feels big, we take the next brave step anyway.

Onward and Upward

If you’ve supported this journey — by reading, sharing, purchasing the book, or cheering me on — thank you. This phase is possible because of you.

I cannot wait to see these self-produced Courage Buddies bundled up with the book and heading into homes where they will help someone feel a little braver.

Onward to Phase 4 — community edition. 💜

Failure Is Practice: What Artists Understand About Mental Health

Building Mental Health Through Perseverance

While reading Real Artists Don’t Starve, by Jeff Goins, I saw a connection between the work of artists and the work of building mental health through perseverance. Says Goins,

“In every failure and disappointment, there is an opportunity to give in to frustration or see such shortcomings as practice. These failures teach us; they are our ‘training camps.’”

He’s speaking to artists.

Moreover, he could just as easily be speaking to anyone learning how to manage fear, regulate emotions, or build mental resilience.

In addition, the truth is this:

Developing mental health skills is not clean.
It is not linear.
And it is rarely comfortable.

It looks much more like rehearsal than arrival.

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Collage illustration from “Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears

Failure Is Part of Learning Emotional Regulation

When we talk about building resilience or managing anxiety, we often imagine progress as steady improvement.

But neuroscience tells us something different.

The brain learns through repetition — especially repetition after mistakes.

When you:

  • Lose your temper
  • Avoid something important
  • Freeze in a difficult moment
  • Spiral into self-doubt

You are not disqualified from growth.

You are in training.

Every emotional setback is information. It shows you:

  • Where your nervous system activates
  • What triggers overwhelm
  • How your body responds to perceived threat

This is data. Not defeat.

Goins calls these moments “training camps.” In mental health terms, they are exposure, feedback, and refinement.

Building Mental Health Through Perseverance

Goins writes:

“It’s a commitment to persevere, believing one setback will not defeat you.”

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This mirrors what psychologists call resilience — the ability to recover after stress or adversity.

Resilience is not the absence of struggle.
It is the decision to continue practicing after struggle.

When learning how to:

  • Manage fear
  • Reduce avoidance
  • Calm the nervous system
  • Take brave steps despite anxiety

You will have days that feel like regression.

That doesn’t mean you are failing.

It means you are strengthening neural pathways through repetition.

The brain rewires through practice — not perfection.

Setbacks Are Necessary Steps on the Road to Growth

Goins writes:

“You can’t avoid these moments; they are necessary steps on the road to greatness.”

In the world of art, that means bad drafts, awkward performances, rejection.

In the world of mental health skill-building, it means:

  • Trying to breathe through anxiety and still feeling overwhelmed
  • Attempting a difficult conversation and stumbling over words
  • Showing up with courage and wishing you had said more
  • Taking one brave step — and needing to rest afterward

Growth requires exposure to discomfort.

Avoidance keeps fear large.
Practice keeps fear manageable.

Each attempt is rehearsal for the next moment.

Stop Waiting to “Feel Ready”

Goins ends with this powerful call:

“To do the work of a professional, you have to stop waiting to be seen and start sharing your work now.”

This applies directly to emotional growth.

Many people wait to:

  • Feel confident before trying
  • Feel calm before speaking
  • Feel certain before acting
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But confidence grows from action — not the other way around.

Emotional regulation skills develop through use.

You don’t wait until fear disappears.

You practice working with it.

That is how fear becomes smaller.

Mental Health Skills Are Built Through Repetition

Artists rehearse.

Athletes train.

Musicians practice scales.

Building mental health through perseverance takes repetition. Why do we expect emotional strength to arrive without practicing it ?

Building mental health skills requires:

  • Showing up after a hard day
  • Trying again after avoidance
  • Breathing slowly when your heart is racing
  • Taking one small brave step

Some days will feel messy.

Some days will feel like progress.

Both are practice.

Failure Is Not an Endpoint — It’s Information

Goins reframes failure as preparation for “the next show, the next book, the next chance to do it better.”

In emotional growth, there is always a next moment.

The next conversation.
The next opportunity.
The next doorway.

If today didn’t go as planned, that was rehearsal.

If fear won this round, you gather data and try again.

Resilience is built in the return.

An illustration from the picture book "Phoebe and phearnik! Fight BIG Fears" showing Phoebe and her dad at an art show showing their artwork.

The Sooner You Start, The Stronger You Become

There is no perfect time to begin building emotional resilience.

The earlier you practice:

  • Naming fear
  • Regulating breath
  • Taking small risks
  • Responding instead of reacting

The more prepared you become for higher-stakes moments later.

Mental strength is not inherited.

It is practiced.

Keep Trying

Illustration by aws Studios showing a skinny woman with wild hair sitting in a short red dress looking very scared about something.

Learning how to manage fear, anxiety, avoidance, or emotional overwhelm is not about eliminating struggle.

It is about committing to the process.

Just as artists refine their craft through repetition, we refine our emotional skills through lived experience.

Today might not have gone perfectly.

But today was practice.

And practice is how strength is built.

Ask yourself these questions to get you building mental health through perseverance –

  1. How do you build mental resilience?
  2. Why is failure important for growth?
  3. How do you stop giving up after setbacks?